In life, you cannot expect your life to be so amazing. There are times when you have to open up yourself to deal with the problems or issues.
Personally, I deal with random issues which are, for me, UNEXPECTED. Relationship, studies, family and friends are usually on my problem's list...The truth is that you cannot avoid yourself from facing any issues. No matter how constantly you are dealing with it, deal with it wisely.
Hmm who loves issues? who likes to have problem? no one...but who can guarantee that life without problem would be better?...
Facing the issue is a solution, deal with it is better than letting it go without knowing that it is settle. which one do u prefer? Let it go just like that OR do something about it..
As we grow up, the way we solve things or problems will definitely be different. You need to decide on your own which path is the best to be taken. You need to think of your surrounding, and the people who loves you. At the end, what you choose is the best for you and everyone. But if u feel something missing after deciding, then something is wrong somewhere. so review back the solution and decision u have made.
Deep in your heart, you will know what is the best. Think with your brain, feel with your heart. Do not misuse the brain and heart.
If you decide something just like "biarlah,lantaklah, whateverlah", trust me you are not solving the problem. Hati tak ikhlas, perbuatan pun akan kelihatan macam tak redha.
I am not a psychologist...I am a student, who has problem with herself and hope she can give something to people who read this..This remind me of a hadith narrated from Prophet SAW
Dari Abu Ruqayah Tamim bin Aus Ad-Dhari r.a, bahawasanya Nabi SAW bersabda : ' Agama itu adalah nasihat. ' Kami sekelian bertanya : ' Untuk siapa ? ' Maka jawab Rasulullah SAW : ' Bagi Allah, kitabNya, RasulNya dan bagi penganjur-penganjur kaum Muslimin dan orang awamnya. '
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Saturday, May 31, 2014
Sunday, May 18, 2014
Mother...mama...
This entry has nothing to do with mother's day...because for me, everyday is a mother's day...whatever that u guys call as "appreciation" to a mother, it should be done everyday..
So here is a special entry about my mama..an angel, a best-friend. Most importantly, my everything...
Mama is a an outstanding person...since I was a kid, up until now, she is the best and remained the way she is...never change, never...My childhood was not a very good thing to be remember, I deal with the situation of my family, my parents and how they keep on doing the best to feed us all..10 of us...
We used to live in a very small flat...because at that time, papa need to make sure that he had enough money to be given to my siblings who were studying in and outside of Malaysia...daddy's salary wasn't enough so mama worked...she sold kuih, basically foods...but the thing is that, she didn't jual dekat satu tempat...she brought it almost everywhere...there was this mall at Sabah, my mum used to walk from satu kedai to another with her bakul, and jual la to the workers at the shop...diaorang dah biasa dengan mama, so its not a big deal la...
Early In the morning, around 5 am...mama bangun, and started buat kuih...get us ready to school, wake us up and everything la...in the afternoon, mama pergi jual kuih..usually, I will only follow her on Friday cuz habis sekolah awal kan...so bole ikut..I was only seven at that time...she usually left me at this Chinese salon, because she's afraid that I will got tired if I follow her around the mall...
I remembered this one time, it was Ramadhan and it was my first ramadhan...first time puasa..mummy needs to buy things dekat pasar...sibuk pula nak ikut mama...then, sampai dekat pasar, I felt dizzy and about to faint...mama was so worried and she asked for a chair from the penjual...she let me sat on her lap. until I felt better...then she bought me Apollo..haha gile Apollo kot dulu, so without hesitate I ate it, mampu pose tak sampai setengah hari pun...
As I grow up, I spent most of time with mama at kampong...no one at home, unless on weekend because everybody dah kahwin, belajar and etc...so only me, mama and papa left at home...so I shared almost everything with mama...everything..she was like 50+ at that time..Imagine your mom listen to your story everyday and always came out with good advise...no wonder I couldn't hide anything from her...she knows me too well...
Up until now, she knows when I merajuk...when I feel mad and sentap...sometimes, as a child, u will feel sentap with your mother..usually daughters will feel this way..but one thing for sure, our mother actually feel that they had gave us fair and equal treatment....they never feel like lebih-lebih2kan sesiapa...only we, feel that sometimes we were not been given fair treatment...
maybe, once we be a mother, we will surely understand the feeling better...
love u mama-farah-
So here is a special entry about my mama..an angel, a best-friend. Most importantly, my everything...
Mama is a an outstanding person...since I was a kid, up until now, she is the best and remained the way she is...never change, never...My childhood was not a very good thing to be remember, I deal with the situation of my family, my parents and how they keep on doing the best to feed us all..10 of us...
We used to live in a very small flat...because at that time, papa need to make sure that he had enough money to be given to my siblings who were studying in and outside of Malaysia...daddy's salary wasn't enough so mama worked...she sold kuih, basically foods...but the thing is that, she didn't jual dekat satu tempat...she brought it almost everywhere...there was this mall at Sabah, my mum used to walk from satu kedai to another with her bakul, and jual la to the workers at the shop...diaorang dah biasa dengan mama, so its not a big deal la...
Early In the morning, around 5 am...mama bangun, and started buat kuih...get us ready to school, wake us up and everything la...in the afternoon, mama pergi jual kuih..usually, I will only follow her on Friday cuz habis sekolah awal kan...so bole ikut..I was only seven at that time...she usually left me at this Chinese salon, because she's afraid that I will got tired if I follow her around the mall...
I remembered this one time, it was Ramadhan and it was my first ramadhan...first time puasa..mummy needs to buy things dekat pasar...sibuk pula nak ikut mama...then, sampai dekat pasar, I felt dizzy and about to faint...mama was so worried and she asked for a chair from the penjual...she let me sat on her lap. until I felt better...then she bought me Apollo..haha gile Apollo kot dulu, so without hesitate I ate it, mampu pose tak sampai setengah hari pun...
As I grow up, I spent most of time with mama at kampong...no one at home, unless on weekend because everybody dah kahwin, belajar and etc...so only me, mama and papa left at home...so I shared almost everything with mama...everything..she was like 50+ at that time..Imagine your mom listen to your story everyday and always came out with good advise...no wonder I couldn't hide anything from her...she knows me too well...
Up until now, she knows when I merajuk...when I feel mad and sentap...sometimes, as a child, u will feel sentap with your mother..usually daughters will feel this way..but one thing for sure, our mother actually feel that they had gave us fair and equal treatment....they never feel like lebih-lebih2kan sesiapa...only we, feel that sometimes we were not been given fair treatment...
maybe, once we be a mother, we will surely understand the feeling better...
love u mama-farah-
Tuesday, May 13, 2014
Dealing with my sisters...
Having 4 sisters and to be the youngest is not an easy thing for me to deal with...yet this is what I call a "bless"
I sometimes see people complaining about how they cannot co-op with their sisters, or for some of them who are unfortunate enough to have sisters are actually common.
But for me, having 4 sisters hmmm is a drama!
Before I start, hehe....I actually have 5 brothers, too..but my brothers are a bit dysfunctional and only functions when there is something big came up...hehe well, they are guys so what is there for them to bother or to be bother of?right?
I love ALL of them..especially my sisters...for me, my sister are always there for me...for almost everything and each of them have their own attitude, roles and specialty....
Hmm lets start with my lovely along...my 2nd mama....hehe...funny, yet very outspoken and serious..hehe...we call her manager for any family event, she is very good at handling things, maybe because of a lot of experiences she've been through makes her so capable in handling things...ohh and she's very good at cooking..just like mama...Along is a bit sensitive actually, but she usually keep everything all by herself....susah gila tengok dia nangis except when there is something yang buat dia tersentuh sangat...but mama always remind me, and the others that " along is like a mother to each one of us, so we need to respect her as much as we respect mama"...so please, don't argue with her or u will lose.....hehe
Itha, hehe she's the brutal yet very motherly....kih2...she's quite outspoken too and sangat memberi nasihat....one thing yang dia cakap " kalau orang buat kita, kita jangan buat orang"...she don't really care what people say, I mean in a good way...and very funny...very...hehe....
Anor, hehe the cutest among all....but she's quite moody sometimes...she do whatever she thinks best...hehe ....
Adik..this one...hmm I dont' know whether to call her my sister or my lit sister...seriously we fight a lot...but she's a good friend of mine...up until now....and sometimes I forgot she's already married..hehe....guess why?...haha never mind, can't tell in public I guess...but the thing about her is that she's very tak kisah...if u look at her..i mean physically...hehe dalam Allah je tahu kan...
The thing about my sister, they sometimes deal with issue among them and I became like blur because I don't know whether I should get involved with it or not...hehe and I have to be neutral...hehe but I love the fact that we actually love each other..tak kisahlah how much we disagree on something, at the end we accept the difference and just go with it...no big deal... and I don't know how my life will be without the four them..because they are the apples to my pie...and it won't tasty without the apples....love u guys...just so u know...
lit sister-farah-
I sometimes see people complaining about how they cannot co-op with their sisters, or for some of them who are unfortunate enough to have sisters are actually common.
But for me, having 4 sisters hmmm is a drama!
Before I start, hehe....I actually have 5 brothers, too..but my brothers are a bit dysfunctional and only functions when there is something big came up...hehe well, they are guys so what is there for them to bother or to be bother of?right?
I love ALL of them..especially my sisters...for me, my sister are always there for me...for almost everything and each of them have their own attitude, roles and specialty....
Hmm lets start with my lovely along...my 2nd mama....hehe...funny, yet very outspoken and serious..hehe...we call her manager for any family event, she is very good at handling things, maybe because of a lot of experiences she've been through makes her so capable in handling things...ohh and she's very good at cooking..just like mama...Along is a bit sensitive actually, but she usually keep everything all by herself....susah gila tengok dia nangis except when there is something yang buat dia tersentuh sangat...but mama always remind me, and the others that " along is like a mother to each one of us, so we need to respect her as much as we respect mama"...so please, don't argue with her or u will lose.....hehe
Itha, hehe she's the brutal yet very motherly....kih2...she's quite outspoken too and sangat memberi nasihat....one thing yang dia cakap " kalau orang buat kita, kita jangan buat orang"...she don't really care what people say, I mean in a good way...and very funny...very...hehe....
Anor, hehe the cutest among all....but she's quite moody sometimes...she do whatever she thinks best...hehe ....
Adik..this one...hmm I dont' know whether to call her my sister or my lit sister...seriously we fight a lot...but she's a good friend of mine...up until now....and sometimes I forgot she's already married..hehe....guess why?...haha never mind, can't tell in public I guess...but the thing about her is that she's very tak kisah...if u look at her..i mean physically...hehe dalam Allah je tahu kan...
The thing about my sister, they sometimes deal with issue among them and I became like blur because I don't know whether I should get involved with it or not...hehe and I have to be neutral...hehe but I love the fact that we actually love each other..tak kisahlah how much we disagree on something, at the end we accept the difference and just go with it...no big deal... and I don't know how my life will be without the four them..because they are the apples to my pie...and it won't tasty without the apples....love u guys...just so u know...
lit sister-farah-
Monday, May 12, 2014
My relationship stories..
Semua orang ingin rasa dicintai...dan mencintai....most importantly, element give and take harus ada in every single relationship yang korang create...RELATIONSHIP for me is a big word with a big responsibilities yang korang kena uphold..Dalam konteks perbincangan, the type of relationship yang akan dibincangkan adalah "love relationship between you and your special one".
Dalam Islam pun ada terms taaruf je...Tapi disebabkan kita ni semua dah otak secular, jadi kita semua dah terjebak ke dalam lembah "couple" ni...
Tapi pada aku, mungkin ini semua bergantung pada kefahaman dan pendirian masing-masing..
Dan kita tak boleh nak fikir buruk pada mereka yang berpasangan sebelum kahwin..as long as dorang pandai jaga diri, jaga nama mak ayah dan mak ayah tahu everything SEmua akan ok inshaa allahh...
Tahun ni masuk tahun ke-4 aku dengan Encik...banyak betul ranjau dan duri disulami detik bahagia sepanjang perhubungan ini...Macam-macam stage la kitaorang dah go through...tapi satu bendala pasal dia yang aku memang respek..kesabaran kot...dan perubahan die ke arah kebaikan...serius menyentuh jiwa...sebab pada aku, lelaki yang berubah untuk kebaikan dan mempunyai kesabaran yang tinggi ni cukup matang untuk go through benda lain dalam hidup...
Aku ni suka jugak buat hal..tetiba buat dia sakit hati..tapi tak pernah pulak dengar die tinggi suara marah aku,naik tangan nak pukul ke....
Every relationship xde yang perfect..even kekadang dia ada jugak mood tak stabil, angin dia datang tapi dia akan diam lah banyak....ada je masa-masa aku rasa nak menangis bila gaduh dengan dia...
hehe tapi satu fakta perempuan kene terima, lelaki memang kebanyakannya kurang senses...
Hakikatnya, macam mana korang terima partner korang seadanya...that's all matter..
sayang awak <3 p="">
Dalam Islam pun ada terms taaruf je...Tapi disebabkan kita ni semua dah otak secular, jadi kita semua dah terjebak ke dalam lembah "couple" ni...
Tapi pada aku, mungkin ini semua bergantung pada kefahaman dan pendirian masing-masing..
Dan kita tak boleh nak fikir buruk pada mereka yang berpasangan sebelum kahwin..as long as dorang pandai jaga diri, jaga nama mak ayah dan mak ayah tahu everything SEmua akan ok inshaa allahh...
Tahun ni masuk tahun ke-4 aku dengan Encik...banyak betul ranjau dan duri disulami detik bahagia sepanjang perhubungan ini...Macam-macam stage la kitaorang dah go through...tapi satu bendala pasal dia yang aku memang respek..kesabaran kot...dan perubahan die ke arah kebaikan...serius menyentuh jiwa...sebab pada aku, lelaki yang berubah untuk kebaikan dan mempunyai kesabaran yang tinggi ni cukup matang untuk go through benda lain dalam hidup...
Aku ni suka jugak buat hal..tetiba buat dia sakit hati..tapi tak pernah pulak dengar die tinggi suara marah aku,naik tangan nak pukul ke....
Every relationship xde yang perfect..even kekadang dia ada jugak mood tak stabil, angin dia datang tapi dia akan diam lah banyak....ada je masa-masa aku rasa nak menangis bila gaduh dengan dia...
hehe tapi satu fakta perempuan kene terima, lelaki memang kebanyakannya kurang senses...
Hakikatnya, macam mana korang terima partner korang seadanya...that's all matter..
sayang awak <3 p="">
Sunday, May 11, 2014
Reality
Pada saat korang "landing" atas tilam empuk korang, pernah tak korang fikir sesuatu?Atau korang cuma landing baik punya lepas tu terus tido?
Setiap kali aku landing atas katil empuk yang dipinjamkan ini, mesti otak aku ligat berfikir...kalau orang tengok muka aku, mesti orang akan cakap yang aku jenis orang yang tak ada masalah..seronoklah tengok muka pasty label orang..
Hakikatnya,tak kisahlah macam mana sekalipun bentuk muka orang, haruslah jugak dorang ni ada masalah...samalah juga seperti aku...
Masalah..semua orang pun ada masalah...ade jenis orang suka nak orang tahu dan ambil berat tentang masalah dia...ada jugak jenis die tak berapa suka orang taw masalah dia, dan die akan buat apa yang termampu nak selesaikannya..
Ada jenis suka tulis apa dia rasa...contohnya akulah...sebab aku rasa menulis bole buat aku rasa rilex sikit...tak semestinya kena tulis ayat jiwang,sedih bagai....tak semestinya jugak kena tulis macam sasterawan Negara...tak semestinya pun kena tulis untuk buat kau rasa rilex..bergantunglah pada empunya diri...
Tapi satu jela, aku jenis takkan bagi orang faham apa masalah aku..kalau aku cerita, orang takkan perasan yang aku tak cerita sepenuhnya..so kebanyakannya akan rasa macam fahamlah apa aku rasa..tapi aku boleh tahu jenis orang yang betul nak dengar masalah aku, dengan yang tak berapa nak dengarlah...kadang-kadang mak ayah aku pun kurang memahami masalah aku, kenapa?sebab aku tahu kalau aku cerita detail sangat nanti ia akan bertukar menjadi kerisauan yang berpanjangan buat mereka...nasihat aku, jangan bebankan mak ayah dengan masalah korang melainkan mak ayah korang tu bukan jenis risau yang kritikal lah..
ada satu rasa dalam hati aku yang tak mahu membebankan orang...tapi kalau aku bengang sangat aku meluah jela dekat bestie aku ZAYNOR....hehe tengok huruf besar tak....hakikatnya, aku membesar dengan dia, macam2 benda dengan dia...Di saat aku telefon dan die dengar suara aku, dia dah bole detect yang aku ni dalam mod stabil atau tak...dia memang dah tahu...most of the timelah...sebenarnya aku tak nak banyak, zay ni is a good listener...a good listener pada aku adalah die dengar every detail yang dikatakan....she's more like a sister to me la, even though we are connected through blood relation, we are more than bff...
sebenarnya, bukan senang aku nak cerita apa aku rasa...kadang orang senang je nak judge aku...senang je nak kata macam2...tapi bukan tahu pun ape2...tak semestinya kenal 5 bulan, boleh buat kau kenal orang tu macam 20 tahun....nak kenal orang bukan senang...honestly..
semua orang perasaan lain2...cara pun lain..jadi janganlah harap yang apa kita buat pada orang, orang akan buat the same pada kita...
tq-nyte.
bff-zaynor I love u...
Setiap kali aku landing atas katil empuk yang dipinjamkan ini, mesti otak aku ligat berfikir...kalau orang tengok muka aku, mesti orang akan cakap yang aku jenis orang yang tak ada masalah..seronoklah tengok muka pasty label orang..
Hakikatnya,tak kisahlah macam mana sekalipun bentuk muka orang, haruslah jugak dorang ni ada masalah...samalah juga seperti aku...
Masalah..semua orang pun ada masalah...ade jenis orang suka nak orang tahu dan ambil berat tentang masalah dia...ada jugak jenis die tak berapa suka orang taw masalah dia, dan die akan buat apa yang termampu nak selesaikannya..
Ada jenis suka tulis apa dia rasa...contohnya akulah...sebab aku rasa menulis bole buat aku rasa rilex sikit...tak semestinya kena tulis ayat jiwang,sedih bagai....tak semestinya jugak kena tulis macam sasterawan Negara...tak semestinya pun kena tulis untuk buat kau rasa rilex..bergantunglah pada empunya diri...
Tapi satu jela, aku jenis takkan bagi orang faham apa masalah aku..kalau aku cerita, orang takkan perasan yang aku tak cerita sepenuhnya..so kebanyakannya akan rasa macam fahamlah apa aku rasa..tapi aku boleh tahu jenis orang yang betul nak dengar masalah aku, dengan yang tak berapa nak dengarlah...kadang-kadang mak ayah aku pun kurang memahami masalah aku, kenapa?sebab aku tahu kalau aku cerita detail sangat nanti ia akan bertukar menjadi kerisauan yang berpanjangan buat mereka...nasihat aku, jangan bebankan mak ayah dengan masalah korang melainkan mak ayah korang tu bukan jenis risau yang kritikal lah..
ada satu rasa dalam hati aku yang tak mahu membebankan orang...tapi kalau aku bengang sangat aku meluah jela dekat bestie aku ZAYNOR....hehe tengok huruf besar tak....hakikatnya, aku membesar dengan dia, macam2 benda dengan dia...Di saat aku telefon dan die dengar suara aku, dia dah bole detect yang aku ni dalam mod stabil atau tak...dia memang dah tahu...most of the timelah...sebenarnya aku tak nak banyak, zay ni is a good listener...a good listener pada aku adalah die dengar every detail yang dikatakan....she's more like a sister to me la, even though we are connected through blood relation, we are more than bff...
sebenarnya, bukan senang aku nak cerita apa aku rasa...kadang orang senang je nak judge aku...senang je nak kata macam2...tapi bukan tahu pun ape2...tak semestinya kenal 5 bulan, boleh buat kau kenal orang tu macam 20 tahun....nak kenal orang bukan senang...honestly..
semua orang perasaan lain2...cara pun lain..jadi janganlah harap yang apa kita buat pada orang, orang akan buat the same pada kita...
tq-nyte.
bff-zaynor I love u...
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